tear apart

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Upset or make distraught, as in The parents' divorce tore apart the grandparents. [ Second half of 1800s ]
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Criticize severely, as in The professor tore her paper apart. [ Mid-1900s ]
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Search some place completely, as in The police tore the house apart. [ Second half of 1900s ]
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Separate, especially unwillingly, as in The war tore many families apart.